Since the dawn of Pinterest ladies everywhere have been inundated with bridal inspiration. You can pin and plan your ‘dream wedding’ in a matter of mere minutes. However, when it comes to real life wedding planning; decision making may not prove as easy as your dream wedding board. Decisions in real life prove much more difficult once you factor in budget; your fiancées needs vs. your own, family members and the list go on and on.
If you find that your bride-self is an indecisive unsure disaster, here are 5 tips that you can use to your advantage when making a decision
Your Dream Wedding
Use that ‘Dream Wedding’ board to your advantage! Comb back through old pins, delete pins that were more of a fantasy than a reality, save pins that continue to draw your attention and see what you are left with. Is what’s left on your board within reach for your wedding day? Can you tweak points of inspiration to make it work for your needs? Once you have a good ‘pin flow’ going it will become more evident what it is that your heart truly desires for your wedding day.
Ask a Stranger
If you find that the source of your indecision stems from personal matters such as who to invite, who not to invite, selecting bridesmaids, and who should be in tow on the day of your bridal salon appointment; you may not want to ask those closest to you because chances are they are part of the equation. Visit online bridal forums like The Knot, or even local Face Book groups and ask former brides for their advice and experiences; ask what they did when faced with a similar situation. Sometimes a non-objective outside opinion can give a fresh perspective to an old problem!
Gown shopping is serious business! Gown shopping can be like stepping into a fairytale and being queen for a day, but don’t put your expectation ahead of your experience! If you are indecisive on other points of your wedding, choosing a gown will be beyond overwhelming. Try to keep your party small for bridal salon appointments, too many opinions will overwhelm an already tough decision. Be clear and direct with your bridal stylist, when speaking for the first time, let your stylist know exactly what you are looking for and that you tend to have a hard time committing to a decision. If you are not ‘feeling it’ at your first appointment, make no more than two additional appointments. Running around to every salon in town will only make matters worse. When all else fails: follow your heart! Close your eyes and imagine if this is really the dress you envision yourself walking down the aisle to your fiancée in.
Hire a Pro
Many brides opt against hiring a full service wedding planner. Did you know that planners can offer a wide range of services or even custom design a package for your specific needs? Hiring a planner that has extensive knowledge of other vendors can help whittle down your decision making process. A professional wedding planner will present you with a limited (key word) range of options on your wedding day needs and will also best be able to determine what is a great fit, and what you should ditch.
You mean you have to plan a wedding and a vacation at the same time?! A honeymoon will be a welcome relaxation with your new spouse once the dust from your wedding settles, but until then, it will also add to the surmounting decisions that are already placed in front of you. Can’t decide where to go/what to do? Ask your fiancée! Ask your fiancée where they envision the two of you jetting off too! Not totally crazy about their choice of location? Come up with your own location close to your fiancée’s choice and visit both. Two locations not feasible? A modern day coin flip is in order! Post a simple status on your Face Book page: Hawaii or Bora Bora? See what the popular answer is and run with it!
Overall, never forget that your wedding is a joyous occasion in which those around you will come together to celebrate the love that you and your fiancée have for one another. Decisions will seem like a far and distant memory on the day of your wedding, if you are an indecisive bride, try not to get bogged down in the details on your journey to be wed, focus on the most important thing (your future spouse) and build around that.