Guest lists are a persistent source of stress for brides. Who to invite, who not to invite and guests being pushed on you by pushy parents.
If you are planning for a more intimate wedding experience, your guest list will be less than 100 people. This will prove even more difficult if you have a large family on either side, throw in friends and co-workers and your guest list will be cut after cut.
An intimate wedding can still be a luxurious affair, and at the same time will provide a more personal experience for the couple and their guests
Here are some factors that can aid you in compiling your guest lists and making those (not so fun) but necessary cuts.At the beginning stages of compiling your guest list, ‘put a cork’ on the the plus ones who may be attending as a single. If you find that you have a few ‘extra’ seats to fill, you can always double back over and add plus ones. Be very mindful when adding plus ones! There are two ways to go about this that will not cause rifts or nuclear melt downs, either all singles get a plus one, or only singles in a long term relationship get a plus one.
Have you talked to the potential guest within the last year? If NO, are they a close family member that has drifted? If NO again, then it’s a no on the invite as well.
Is the potential guest someone that your parents are insisting on inviting? If your parents are not paying for any portion of the wedding politely explain your vision of an intimate wedding and decline to add the guest in question.
If your parents are paying for the wedding allow 6 slots or less on your guest list for guests of their choosing.
The Hardest Part
Your Wedding Party
Try to keep your wedding party to three or less maids or groomsmen each. Many brides having an intimate wedding agonize over this decision the most. As a bride you really don’t want to exclude a friend/cousin/future in law but the only true answer on your selection will be to honor yourself on your choice for who will be in included in your wedding party. You know who your best friend is, you know those that have always been there for you during the good and bad times. Those left out of your wedding party will still be in attendance at your wedding and other pre-wedding events and activities, so try to stand behind your decision once it has been made.