Shopping for your wedding dress will be one of the more memorable experiences of your entire wedding planning process, possibly even one of the most pivotal moments (next to your proposal and actual wedding of course). I have heard bride after bride gush over their dress shopping experiences and how amazing they felt in their gowns. A couple of friends of mine even joked about doing a re-enactment of the infamous Friends episode, just so they could wear their gowns again!
Before you set your appointment with that bridal salon you’ve been dreaming of visiting since before you met your mate, check out this big list of don’ts.
Don’t place an expectation on your dress shopping experience! Example? Don’t expect you will try on three gowns and you will be moved to tears by the fourth one. You may stop after trying on the first gown, or you may try on ten gowns and realize your style is just not vibing with that particular bridal salon and you need to make an appointment elsewhere. Be comfortable knowing your experience could fall anywhere in that spectrum, placing an expectation on your experience is a sure fire way to sign up for disappointment.
Don’t be stuck on a specific silhouette. Going into your appointment dreaming of a mermaid gown is divine until you try one on and suddenly feel like a lop sided over grown child trying to fulfill her Disney princes dreams, do not let this bring you to ruins! This is all part of your experience when hunting down your dream dress. Heck, take a picture and caption it on social media as ‘the one that got away’, roll with it! Be open to trying on silhouettes you might not have even considered, sometimes you really do have to ‘just try it on’.
Don’t ‘shop for your shape’. Your stylist may make suggestions on silhouettes that best fit ‘your shape’, if you end up with one of these stylists, ask for another! Any bride can rock any style she chooses, you are only as fabulous as you feel in your wedding gown, and no one can make that determination for you. When the aforementioned mermaid style didn’t work out you’ll want a stylist that can easily transition you into something similar that will give you the wow factor you were hoping to achieve the with the first silhouette. Again, be open minded to trying on gowns you might not have imagined yourself in, but never should your size or shape limit any part of your wedding dress shopping experience.
Don’t expect every member of your entourage to fall madly in love with the same dress you’ve fallen in love with, you know what they say about opinions…. If you are shopping with a big crew in tow, their opinions will more than likely be divided, while an opposing opinion is anyone’s right, negativity is not allowed within your entourage. Try to bring only your most inner circle when shopping, and if you feeling you are leaving any one person out in the cold on wedding dress shopping, there will be plenty of other pre-wedding and wedding events to include them in.
Don’t expect to purchase all of your accessories at the salon where you chose your dress. Most bridal salons carry a limited selection of jewelry and shoes; it’s ok to shop for those items elsewhere! Brides are rocking their wedding dresses with chunky statement necklaces and department store heels; infuse your personal style into your accessories in any way that best fits you!
Don’t get swept away if you are on a budget. Be upfront and clear about your budget when booking your appointment. Don’t allow a pushy stylist to bring you gorgeous $20,000 gowns when your budget is more like $2,000, don’t even indulge your stylist by trying on the high priced gowns because you are bound to fall in love with one of them and before you know it you’ll be mortgaging your first born to fulfill your sparkly dream. Have trouble saying no to your stylist? Enlist the help of your entourage to speak up on your behalf!
Your wedding dress shopping will be the one aspect of your wedding planning that is 100% focused on you, have fun with it! Enjoy the comp champagne, take lots of pictures and go for lunch with your girls when all is said and done, make it fun and memorable.