In our last post we (hopefully) inspired you to extend the length of your engagement. Did you know that the typical engagement is anywhere from a year to a year and a half?
Have you ever had a chat with a new bride? Do you often hear “it was a whirlwind” “I can’t believe it went by so fast” and also the famed “If I had to do it all over again….” boy if I had a dollar for everytime I heard a take on one of those phrases, I could retire!!
How you can prevent feeling those same sentiments about your journey to the alter? Why not enjoy an extended engagement!
We encourage our lovebirds to enjoy an engagement of two years and beyond.
Extending your engagement allows you all the freedoms you’ll need for planning and ENJOYING every pre-wedding event and moment.
Some ways to take advantage of an extended engagement:
- Have an Engagement Party
How often do couples throw an engagement party anymore? Throw a soiree for you and your fiancee, enlist help in the planning if need be. Your engagement party can be an over the top celebration or it can be as easy as an elegant dinner to bring together parents or bridesmaids and groomsmen.
2) Dress Shop
Designer gowns can take anywhere from 8 months to a year to create after you place your order, that leaves little wiggle room for shopping around, fittings and alterations. An extended engagement will allow you less pressure when dress shopping and more time to scount the dress of your dreams along with a larger time frame for a custom order.
3) It’s All in the Details
I am a firm believer in “the details make the day”, you’ll need plenty of time to mull over coordinating your theme or color palette, signature drinks, chargers, and centerpieces, as well as devise your welcome table and infuse fun elements of your couple style into your wedding day.
4) Pre-Marital Counseling
READ: Pre-marital counseling does not indicate there is a pre-existing problem in your relationship! Pre-marital counseling is a great way to begin to lay the foundation of your marriage. It will give you the opportunity to discuss things that you may have not discussed prior to your engagement such as finances, religious beliefs, where you will live, and decisions on expanding your family. Pre-marital counseling will allow you to expand on the love and respect that already exists in your relationship and soar it to new heights.
5) Date Your Fiancee
In addition to your engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party and slew of other group centered pre-wedding celebrations be sure to carve out time to be alone with your fiancee. Go out for dinner and drinks, to the theatre, couples massages, or have a date in with take out and movies. Spending ‘alone’ time with one another is key to strengthening your bond and remembering why you chose to embark on this journey together
How long was your engagement? If you had to do it all over again, what would you change or do differently?