Are you starting to feel like you are burning “both ends of the wick” when it comes to your wedding planning? I can tell you that when I overload my responsibilities and goals I often feel that way, and I’m *not* in wedding planning mode! The stress of wedding planning is all too real and if you’re not careful you will find yourself just wishing for your day to be over.
The truth is, that the added task of wedding planning coupled with our daily lives can become overwhelming to any bride. Planning a wedding is a huge undertaking and if you’re starting to feel that it is more of a burden than a joy, you are not alone in your wedding planning stress.
There are some things you (or maybe even your loved ones) can do to help you de-stress from the whole wedding planning process
1) Stop Answering Questions
Sound mean and counter-intuitive? Do you have a person(s) in your life who is constantly pressing you for every single minute detail about your wedding? Granted, I’m sure they are quite well meaning and just as excited about your wedding as you are, but for some reason their questions seem never-ending. Stop.answering.questions. The only people you are obliged a response on any wedding planning questions include your spouse, your vendors or anyone who is otherwise heavily involved in the planning process. Politely explain to others that you are saving some elements of your wedding as a surprise and you can’t wait to see how excited they will be about it. The End
2) Enlist Help
I’m a firm believer in asking for a little help from a friend when you need it. Nobody is superwoman, and dealing with the stress of wedding planning is not a good time to prove you are! If you and your partner are the only ones making big decisions about your planning, enlist the help of a friend, bridesmaid, aunt, etc to organize favors, print stationary, seal envelopes run small errands, anything! These tasks seem menial yes, but if you are already feeling weighted from your many responsibilities, taking these tasks away from an already never ending to-do list will be a great alleviation in the long run.
3) Scale Back
If you feel that your wedding planning has consumed your life and the train has come off the track, it may be time to scale back on the wedding itself. Make cuts to your guest list if you have not yet mailed invites/turned in a head count. Ask yourself what elements of your day are most important in celebrating your love and make cuts to any unnecessary editions outside of that, or things that may have been decided in the heat of the moment (hint: you may not need that huge monogrammed ice sculpture, just saying!)
4) Don’t Fight
Your wedding is supposed to be a joyous celebration of the love that you and your partner have for one another. This is a wonderful time in your life by which you are creating new memories and the two of you will now become your own family. Fighting as a sign of wedding planning stress is bad news and oh-so-not-worth-it. Figure out the main source of your frustrations and why you are directing it at your partner, find a better way to communicate those frustrations after you have thought long and hard. Fighting pre-wedding is not the best way to start your marriage.
5) No Offense
Many couples find themselves torn on decision making as far as who should be a bridesmaid, groomsman, flower girl, ring bearer, or whether or not to invite their third cousin’s husbands mother, all because they don’t want to “offend” anyone. This is one detail of the wedding planning process where I will invoke the bridezilla inspired “it’s your day” clause, and hear me out: you know in your heart who is most important to you and who should be there to celebrate in the joy of your new marriage. Another good rule of thumb that I heard ages ago, if they are not close enough to warrant an invitation to the bridal shower, then no wedding invitation.
What is your go to for scaling back on stress?
I find withdrawing from the situation to get some perspective always help clear my mind.